Thank you in advance

In advance of bringing home our child, I wanted to take a minute and thank our friends and family for referring to him only as our son. Not as our adopted child or Chinese baby. Please don't refer to his birth parents in China as his "real" parents or that we're not having a baby "of our own".

Yes, right now there is a lot of talk about China and adoption, but it is purely in discussion of the process that we are going through. While we will be involved in many Chinese based activities to help keep his heritage and culture a part of his life and will speak openly of adoption, he will be part of our family and heritage first and foremost.

I've had a couple of innocent comments hit a nerve lately and I thought it would only be fair to help those who mean well understand why certain references can seem benign but have negative impact.

Thank you for respecting this. If you would like to learn more about proper adoption vocabulary, Click Here.